Raising Happy and Confident Children
How do you raise confident and happy children? There are many theories about this on the bookshelf, on the internet, and from people, but what are some things that you can do to help your child gain self-esteem and be as happy as possible? Raising happy and well-adjusted children should be our main goal in life. Well-adjusted children become well-adjusted adults who are able to deal with life and all of its problems.
The first thing to remember is that we as parents cannot make our children happy by the objects that we purchase, etc. Buying the latest toys, video games, or gadgets will not make your child happy for life. It may make them happy for the ten minutes that they play with that toy, game, or gadget, but in the long run, it will not make them happy inside themselves. Raising a happy and confident child means that you give them the tools to deal with life and all of its problems.
Let them fight their own fights.
As parents, we want to keep our
children from any hurt or
disappointment. What we
need to realize is that if our
children do not learn to deal
with their own problems when
they are younger, then they will
not have the tools to deal with
the larger life issues.
Letting them learn to stand on
their own and fight their own
battles can build
self-confidence like nothing
Teaching them to never give up
is a way for them to learn true
happiness and fulfillment.
Even something as simple as not
quitting a sports team because
they do not like it is teaching
them that we will not always
like what we do, but when we
make a commitment then we stick
with it. Children need to
learn that we as adults do not
like everything that we do, but
we stand by our word. This
makes us better people. If
they are not good at something,
encourage them. Help them
practice until they are better.
Teach them that nothing comes
easy, but the rewards of
persistence are immeasurable.
Money isn't everything.
Teaching your children that
there are people less fortunate
than they are will help them to
learn that money does not
determine happiness. Let
them create ways to help those
people less fortunate.
This will help them learn more
about other people and help them
gain self-confidence by teaching
them that they can help others.
Listen, listen, listen.
Listen to your child. Ask
questions. Give them your
complete and total attention so
they will know that you are
entirely in the moment with
them. This gives a child
more happiness than anything
else does. Talk to them as
you would anyone else.
Children know when we talk down
at them and it makes them feel
inferior. Talk to them
about your day and some of your
struggles so they will know that
you have problems and have to
work through them too.
Children are the future of the world. If we do not raise happy, confident, well-adjusted children, then they will turn into bitter adults who cannot solve their own problems. It is very important to do whatever we can to make sure that our children grow into independent adults. Besides, we want them to be able to take care of us in our old age, don't we?
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